i was going to ask u to put it on the site but didnt know how to put it into words.

Found out today that on Friday Emily has lets say "Borrowed" a belonging of one of the children from school from the other childs box.
I was thinking to make her take it back tommorow as its not hers and explain to the teacher but then she will get into trouble,ummmmmmmmmmmm let her take the flak or deal with it,but if i just deal with it then i am saying its not right to be caught..........Tough choice but one i feel i have to do..........
Mums advice here please

I would make her take it back to the girl she borrowed it from and make her apologise. ?? and tell her this is wrong.

I would make her take it back and say sorry to the other child as well. But i would also say your daughter really isnt all that bad, she is only 7 and is still learning right from wrong. Most children take things that dont belong to them at some point or another i know i did as a child and i know my oldest two children did when they were younger. I always made them pay for what they took, if they have no money they had to do jobs upto the value of what they took, to pay off there debt. They soon learnt it was best to ask, then if they wanted something out of the ordinary i would give them jobs again to pay for what they wanted. This was far more positive and the children thrived on it. My oldest took a watch from my friends house i was horrified and embarrsed. After questioning he owned up and gave me the watch, i made him give it back and embarresed him he was very ashamed and we made a point of checking his pockets after visting anyones house which he hated. We did this until we really felt he had learned his lesson, and in front of everyone, It ended then. My point is most children steal/borrow/take without asking it doesnt make them bad its just part of growing up. Another point is that your daughter may have special needs and may not really understand the wrongs and rights of the world at this time, i only say this as you said she has seen a ED PSY and thats usually for a SEN im sorry if im wrong and mean no offense.

what was the outcome of this Daniel ???

well it actually turns out that she fibbed again, she didnt take it from the girls tray she took it from the teachers desk!!!! i didnt shout at her, i was glad she told the truth (eventually) but dan did go in and tell the teacher. She said she was disapointed and had a word with her about stealing. I told her that admitting wrongs and mistakes makes you a better person and understanding why she is being punished will prevent her doing it in future. Heres hoping that the message gets accross......

Hi Julie, Emily had an ed psych in nursery/reception because it was suspected she might have something like ADHD, to be honest, i am convinced she has but because now she is older she can control aspects of it in certain situations its hard for the doctors to see it. Even tho she has said she gets in trouble everyday at school for fidgetting, talking out of turn, talking when shouldnt be, etc etc. Over the years she has gone from being hper allllll the time to having moments where she can be calmer but still not sit still. She never stops talking, shes stroppy and opositional. At times its like having an arguementative 14yr old inside a 7yr olds body. When she was at nursery and the teacher looked up adhd they said it was like a book had been written about her but we didnt go to the doctors for help until lastyear because of all the problems we have had with euan medically etc it kind of got pushed to the side (as awfull as that sounds). So....(i'm ranting lol) she's been refered to cahms....i shall see what they have to say but i dont hold much hope....

xx

i never stop talking this doesnt mean i have adhd, your daughter will always be emily. its ok to say my child has this n that, at the end of the day we are all a person and not a label, we all display some characteristics of things. everyone is different and unique to themselves.