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We're having problems with our 50 something neighbours intimidating our son who is home educated and has autism.

It started when he was scared to go in the garden last summer as "strange noises" were coming from next door when he played with his basketball, it turned out they were holding a boombox thing playing static out the window when he played. He "paces" a lot and had been bouncing the ball as he paced, it would have been noisy but he's only out for 15 mins at a time max. I went round to speak to them, they wouldn't answer the door at first-I think it's her and he was embarassed-when they did answer the door i apologised if he was bothering them and tried to say he loves his basketball and if we could agree a time he could play. He wasn't interested and just said that if they had to do that to drown him aot then "that's what we shall do"

DS was really upset, thinks these people hate him and wouldn't go back in the garden for months, couldnt sleep etc and wouldnt play with his ball at all.

Now the weathers better he's been persuaded out on his trampoline we got from Cerebra, it squeaks and she's now started standing at the top window with her arms folded staring at him-I try to tell him to ignore her but he cant. I'm really upset, I think she's basically intimidating a disabled child and shouldn't be allowed to but what do you do?

Any advice would be appreciated x
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(04-15-2011, 02:08 PM)mazworld15 Wrote: We're having problems with our 50 something neighbours intimidating our son who is home educated and has autism.

It started when he was scared to go in the garden last summer as "strange noises" were coming from next door when he played with his basketball, it turned out they were holding a boombox thing playing static out the window when he played. He "paces" a lot and had been bouncing the ball as he paced, it would have been noisy but he's only out for 15 mins at a time max. I went round to speak to them, they wouldn't answer the door at first-I think it's her and he was embarassed-when they did answer the door i apologised if he was bothering them and tried to say he loves his basketball and if we could agree a time he could play. He wasn't interested and just said that if they had to do that to drown him aot then "that's what we shall do"

DS was really upset, thinks these people hate him and wouldn't go back in the garden for months, couldnt sleep etc and wouldnt play with his ball at all.

Now the weathers better he's been persuaded out on his trampoline we got from Cerebra, it squeaks and she's now started standing at the top window with her arms folded staring at him-I try to tell him to ignore her but he cant. I'm really upset, I think she's basically intimidating a disabled child and shouldn't be allowed to but what do you do?

Any advice would be appreciated x
Are you home owners or council? If council, you can write to them and they can talk to the neighbours or actually you could speak to your local police and they could organise a mediation
Keely x
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Hi,
I know that this is drastic but this is affecting your son and his wellbeing. So, if it were me, I would do two things Firstly consider whether this is where I wanted to be living, yes the change will be difficult, but might be worht it. Thats if you can move.

If moving is not an option or you just don't want to, which lets face it, your not the one in the wrong and your son has found ways to manage his disablity, why should he be intimidated for doing so. I would seek legal advice. If you google the solicitors in your local area, look for specialist in Disbility law. You have tried the friendly approach. So time to take some action.

Now a solicitor is not going to come in heavy with letters threatening action. I think I am right in saying they will help you to mediate with these people, if they still won't then they will help you know what you are legally allowed to do.
As this is on behalf of your son, him being the claimant and you acting on hs behalf, you would probably be entitled to legal aid, but there have been cuts for this. But I think its worth a phone call or two to a solicitor. And don't give up if the first solicitor won't help you.

I googled Disability Law and The Disabilty Law Service popped up, give them a call, they are all about welfare, and if they can't help you they might be able to point you in the right direction.

Hope this helps, you and your son are in my thoughts and prayers, this is wrong and not nice for you, I hope things change soon x x
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How awful and how dare they!! I would try going around again and take a print out leaflet from NAS expaining the difficulties a child with autism has. I really hope you manage to get this sorted for you and your little boy. Please keep us updated. X
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i meant to post when the thread was started but got "interupted" Big Grin it doesnt matter if they are council or private owned neighbours as this would come under anti-social behaviour and all councils will have a phone number where you can speak to somebody who will be able to do something. we had probs with our next door neighbour who used to play loud music against the wall to wind up their other neighbour who has aspergers and cant cope with loud noises but we had the recording unit in our house as she was scared of repercussions whereas the little brat was more scared of me (prob cause i not in a wheelchair) his mother had moved in with her partner and left 2 teenage lads alone
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