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My eldest son with Autism is 7 year's old and he is so violent its becoming a major concern to me.
I cant defend myself and my other children from him anymore. he is too big and strong and quick and before i get a chance to deal with it my other 2 children are hurt.
The problem is i understand he cant help it but for the sake of my other children i need something to help resolve this.
It feels like the doctos dont quite understands how violent he is.
I get punched or kicked in excess of 50 times a day and then add to that the 20 or 30 items he throws at me and all the biting,spitting and head butting i dont understand how he is so strong?
He is stronger than my husband and my husband is a builder and even he cannot restrain him at times.
Can anybody offer any advice on how to deal with this as hes getting older and bigger and its really worrying me now.
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(10-10-2009, 01:27 PM)Shelley Wrote: My eldest son with Autism is 7 year's old and he is so violent its becoming a major concern to me.
I cant defend myself and my other children from him anymore. he is too big and strong and quick and before i get a chance to deal with it my other 2 children are hurt.
The problem is i understand he cant help it but for the sake of my other children i need something to help resolve this.
It feels like the doctos dont quite understands how violent he is.
I get punched or kicked in excess of 50 times a day and then add to that the 20 or 30 items he throws at me and all the biting,spitting and head butting i dont understand how he is so strong?
He is stronger than my husband and my husband is a builder and even he cannot restrain him at times.
Can anybody offer any advice on how to deal with this as hes getting older and bigger and its really worrying me now.

hi shelley,i havent any advice sorry but my little lad who is 2 and a half is being assessed for autism and is now showing signs of agression,he also headbutts,throws things at us,hits and will not tolerate his cousins who are 3 and 9 months,if they go near him he yells and kicks them away.he also is very strong although he is tiny for his age,still in 1 year old clothing.he had to have blood taken a couple of months ago and it took 4 nurses to hold him down and 2 doctors to take the blood.its getting me very worried too,this was just to let you know you are not alone and im around to talk if you feel the need.
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Hi Shelley,
Thank you for your post.
This is an issue i expect many mothers and fathers face when having a child with a violent nature.
Does you son attend a school and how is his behaviour at school?
Is he also in main stream education or does he attend a school that caters for these issues?
What provisions do you have in place both at home and at school to help you?
Have you a doctor that specialises in this type of behaviour?
Have you looked at counselling for your son at all or other types of programs such as Creative Therapy.
There are alot of things you can look at and your no where near the end of the road and there are many options for you to look at and people who will inspire you with ways they deal with aspergers.
Also is your son on any type of medication to help with the mood's?
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(10-10-2009, 06:53 PM)jod63uk Wrote:
(10-10-2009, 01:27 PM)Shelley Wrote: My eldest son with Autism is 7 year's old and he is so violent its becoming a major concern to me.
I cant defend myself and my other children from him anymore. he is too big and strong and quick and before i get a chance to deal with it my other 2 children are hurt.
The problem is i understand he cant help it but for the sake of my other children i need something to help resolve this.
It feels like the doctos dont quite understands how violent he is.
I get punched or kicked in excess of 50 times a day and then add to that the 20 or 30 items he throws at me and all the biting,spitting and head butting i dont understand how he is so strong?
He is stronger than my husband and my husband is a builder and even he cannot restrain him at times.
Can anybody offer any advice on how to deal with this as hes getting older and bigger and its really worrying me now.

hi shelley,i havent any advice sorry but my little lad who is 2 and a half is being assessed for autism and is now showing signs of agression,he also headbutts,throws things at us,hits and will not tolerate his cousins who are 3 and 9 months,if they go near him he yells and kicks them away.he also is very strong although he is tiny for his age,still in 1 year old clothing.he had to have blood taken a couple of months ago and it took 4 nurses to hold him down and 2 doctors to take the blood.its getting me very worried too,this was just to let you know you are not alone and im around to talk if you feel the need.

It sometimes does feel like i am aloneBlush
Its just so frustrating when the doctors make me feel like a liar.
I was tempted to get a camcorder and record the behaviour
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I think that is a good idea. I recorded my son for his diagnosis at Guy as the local paed said that he was a perfectly normal child. However, this was not needed as after the stressful train journey to London, he ran into the hospital office like a wild animal....they could see the evidence right there in front of him!!! But I know how hard it is when people do not believe in what you say about your own child. Autistic children often let rip all the emotions that they have held in all day, and save it as a special treat for mum when they arrive home!!!! lol


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