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i have posted before about my son who is 6 next month he has autism and adhd as well as speech an language delay. but his doctor has been saying his autistic behaviours are down to the speech and language problems(although this is about to be re-assesed as it just can no longer be blamed on speech). but the school say hes defintly autistic. i have posted about his teacher saying she cant meet his needs and she is letting him down, and when i spoke to the senco officer she was only interested in keeping him in mainstream school. i want to move him part time to a special unit.

this morning i had planned to look through my sons assesments, iep's and reports so i could prove all the reasons why he should go to a special unit as after speaking with the senco (who was only interested in pointing fingers of blame instead of actually getting some help of my son - as it turned out it was her decision to take away his one - to -one). after speaking again to my sons teacher and i told her how unhelpful the senco officer was, she still stands by the fact mainstream school is not right for him but she feels i will have to fight for it and will have a problem with senco and inclusion team. so i was planning on getting 'evidence' of why he should go to a special school this morning before i phone the education board - but instead the headteacher asked if i had time for a meeting. she said that we needed to discuss things - i was dreading it. as it turns out she has had the educational pschyologist out and wants to pull at meeting forward, she said with tears in her eyes that the school cant meet his needs and he needs to go to a specialist school. i was expecting her to side with senco but se said she had to be honest with me as she doesnt want to continue letting my son down. she said that the ony thing the school could do for him is put him back into nursery and she says that she feels that even the year after that he would still need to be in that setting.

she was very upset, and i told her not to be that i was ready for this to happen anyway. i knew it was coming and that i was thankful for the support. i didnt tell her that i'd been in two minds to just stick my head in the sand. i suppose its the kick i needed as part of me wants to believe im making it all up and he be fine and there is no autism. she said that the school defintly felt he has autism, and that in the coming meeting she was going to bring that up to my doctor. she also says partime at a special unit wont be enough and she has urged me to visit our local special school. she confirmed everything i had been worried about, she says shes very worried about him. so now she wants to get things moving.

its hitting me now though how bad it really is, before when i thought i was going to have to fight to get him moved i didnt have time to think about it. but having it confirmed has made me feel down. with my daughter already diagnosed with autism at 3 1/2 i wonder how im going to cope. part of me wanted to wrong to have really been overeacting like the senco officer was making out i was, but when the headteacher confirms all i have been worrying about i dont have that option any more Sad
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Just wanted to send you a huge hug from someone with a 3 year old boy who I know in my heart has ASD but does not want to admit it. I completely empathise with the way you feel. I hope we can support each other in the difficult days ahead.

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thankyou, i have accepted that he has asd - i had to a long time ago or i think i would have gone crazy back when he was little as things were slow moving. accepting it hasnt made me feel any better, and the whole time i was struggling with him i didnt even realise my daughter was autistic. do you think theres ever a time where you dont have to worry or fight for help? or is it just the way that everytime you get settled and ok with things that the rug is pulled again and everything is up in the air.
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Hi Becki, i can imagine you are releaved that you are no longer going to have to fight for the move, I remember you posting before about your frustration with the senco. Did you start to look for a school for your daughter and if so did you come accross any possabilities for the two of them?
It's funny how we just accept our children and their problems as life. I remember filling out the DLA forms where it says 'remember your child must need more help than a normal child their age'.......i though to myself what is a 'normal' child like, as to me, Euan and all that comes with him is normal to me! I am starting to dread the school process.
Euans behaviour is becoming more and more difficult, and along side all his complex medical needs he is now becoming violent and aggressive. I know I said the school we had chosen was great because they offer one to one for him, but if it continues like this I can also see him maybe needing to attend a special school. I always refused to accept that might be a possibility but i am trying to come round to it now before he starts mainstream so that if the time comes it isn't such a shock to me!
I really hope you find a school that can meet your sons needs, these Children are such a worry in every aspect that we really don't need the worry of education on top! keep us posted on how the process is going.....

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i hadnt looked at schools yet as my partners been ill, my daughters keyworker is helping me with the school part but she doesnt seem to have done anything yet. i wanted to go to the education department and explain my sons situation - but i was terrified they would tell me he had no chance of going to a special unit.


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