matt has only attacked me as a rule and when he is in a rage only way to stop it is for me to get away from him but even then he will try and get the door open but they are a lot less than when he was younger and having limited speech was a big part of matts moods now its mainly hormonal i think as after he has done what boys do he is in a lot calmer happier mood (just hope the saying too much makes you go blind isnt true)

when he was young and had a mood we would take him back to the car and leave him to calm down before we got in, or if at home would take him to his room and not let him out until he sounded calmer but he got wise to that and would pretend to be calm until we opened door lol mark just took him on a lot of walks in his buggy up hills and get him to walk and tire him out a bit.

only way is to let him finish his paddy as if i somehow got it to stop before he was ready it would start up again but they used to last for 2 - 3 hours now its about half an hour and on average about once a fortnight where it was every other day
guess thats why nowadays i enjoy the nice matty and block out the bad matt because he isnt around as much
corinne

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avoidence is what we do and its exactly like corinne said, we dont go anywhere now unless we have to, which has just made things worse for us. She is happy not going anywhere but the older one isnt so i can definatly tell you that avoiding places is not a good idea. Seliona also attacks both her older and younger sister, she also will attack me but not her dad, but it is so hard when they meltdown like that. Now since we have started not going out with her it seems her behaviour at home is worse (although this could also be to do with her not coping well at school and thats why) but we cant leave her with either of her sisters for even 5 seconds, especially the younger one as she cant fight back and defend herself. No advice though other than the not avoiding places as it makes things worse, as im in that situation myself!

Firstly massive hugs for you all
I tend to do the avoidance thing too or really plan it out in advance. Noah copes quite well in social circumstances and is also attracted to lights/motion etc Bowling isnt something i have attempted yet. I find eating out an issue as he only eats certain foods cooked a certain way. he will sit for so long and then get restless and want to run!
Lots of autistic children have hightened senses and are easily affected by loud noises etc
Graduall exposure to these situations can help, though i know its not easy with siblings. Noah's younger sister is often the target of his aggression/frustration and sadly she is learning to get out of his way when he is having a "meltdown" I have resorted to splitting my time between the 3 of them and taking the 2 youngest out to places like that whilst Noah is at school and vice versa. Noah is often much calmer when its just me and him.
Def push for an earlier appointment, like Corinne said those who "shout the loudest" get the help.

just an idea, you have said before that your son is small for his age so when you are out can you put him in the buggy straped in and holding the buggy so he cannot tip it up. I use to do this with my little one as we had older children who wanted to go out and do there routine things, and it seemed very unfair that they should stop for our yougest child. My daughter would screem hit shout actually be sick when we went to new places, but she had to learn that life went on outside our home. This might cause comments or hurtful stares, and as corinne said as they get older they still have tantrums and other people can be so hurtful with there comments and stares, im afraid you just have to get thick skinned about this and just laugh and try to see a funny side. My youngest is 5 in april and still dislikes going out of the house, we find social stories brillient you could make 1 for bowling using a camera and very little writting of where you are going ,how many games you are playing and then you would be finished. Carol Grey has a very useful book that should help in writting social stories. My friend uses them for her toddler who does not have special needs i think they help with all children.

Its a double pushchair and the youngest gets it.....
And if we take the youngest out Euan screams more!!!!
I think its most likely a case of trial and error and learning to avoid places that bring on the tantrums...
Ive just had a right past month or so things are so on top of me at the moment.