im am struggling with day to day life its got so hard not from the poit of view of cairing for my disabled daughter but from the point of view im now careing for my mother in law has has been diagnosed with terminal cancer if its was just the careing side i could deal with it but its the verbal abuse my mother in law is giving to myself and my daughter i cant handle it and i dont know what to do im at my witts end she the mother in law wont even let me cont any out side help so it doesnt all fall on my sholders im soo stressed and dont know how long i can carry on like this for

Sorry but for your own and your daughter's sake you must get help. There is a lot of support for people with ternimal cancer and their relatives in most places accross the UK. Dont be badgered, if she doesnt want help then that's her choice as an adult but she has no right to abuse your family and impose her wishes on you as well.
Be strong, keep talking as much as you can and get that help !

oh hun .. so sad to see this post .. i sit on face book most nights .. becasue it makes me not so alone when my Children are asleep .... my advice is to seek outside help .. reguardless what the mother inlaw says ! MACMILLAN NURSES are there for carer as well as patients .. they will be there at stupid oclock ... when the day has been hard or even when things are easier .... YOU ARE NOT WONDER WOMAN ...... do not wear yourself down by trying to be.....
your GP may also be a point of call ... the old saying a problem shared is a problem halfed .. can sometimes be true .... YOU MUST TRY TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST ...YOU CANNOT HELP OTHERS IF YOU GET POORLY AND LOW ..... mental hugs from me ((())) take care x Nicky x

Just wanted to add my agreement to what has been said. I know your mother-in -law is terminal and that can be so hard but you cannot put up with any abuse. As Nellie_Ann said she might not want the help but you NEED help and support. Think of your daughter and what would happen if you were unable to care for her. Love and hugs to you. xx

Hi,
So sorry to hear about the pressure you are under right now
What does your husband think about this and how he is getting involved?