My son is classed a doubly (sp) incontinent. He is aware of wetting/soiling himself and will usually tell me after the deed has been done (which I see as a very positive sign)
We had a spell in the summer where he would use the toilet to wee in, however it then turned into another obsession and he was "in it" constantly as in hands down it, flushing it etc.....
Anyhooo he regressed and we are back in pull ups. I have been told that many children with autism are successfully toilet trained but at a later age than others.
Would be interested in other peoples experience with this or and tips?

my daughter, who will be 5 in may, is still not completely toilet trained, she wears pull ups when we go out, and when at home i have to tell her to go to the toilet every hour, as she wont go herself, she will have an accident if we dont tell her to go. She will sometimes go on her own for a 'poo' (without me telling her to go) but other times will sit down in a corner and i know exactly what she is thinking of doing so i just take her to the toilet then. She doesnt wear pull ups in school, and didnt in nursery either, they said they would rather she didnt because she might learn quicker if it was her clothes getting wet and not a pull up, but it doesnt make any difference, if she has an accident, she doesnt care and will stay in the same clothes all day if nobody notices. This happens quiet alot at school, she will come home with wet clothes that she has had on for most of the day, which the teachers "didnt see". Havent got any tips really as she isnt toilet trained properly but just wanted to let you know you are not alone. (I do wonder at times if she will ever be able to go to the toilet without someone telling her to, but i cant see it happening any time in the near future)

We havnt yet had a diagnosis for our sons needs. However he is 5 and still does this now.
He will wee on the toilet, and only poo's when a pull up is put on him on a night! (which is were the night care comes in as he smears hes dirt)
He often trys to play in the loo water etc too!.. And still sometimes comes home from school with wet clothes (not as often now but still does happen)
Realy diont have much advise as we go through it ourselves but just wanted you to know you aint alone hunni..
Xx

My little boy became continent of urine when he was seven, a day we honestly did not think was going to happen. He suddenly just seemed to get it and takes himself off to the loo now for wees.
He is still in nappies for poos and at night and will still poo in his pants if a nappy is not available but we are of the opinion that he may get it one day and just persevere with encouraging him.
Good luck x

Not sure if it is of help but I found the attached article quite interesting.

At the end of it there are some good links for further info.