hello all
Good or bad our child is now 19 !!!!
Many family and friends are trying to push us to put her into care
Which we don’t won’t to do our next option is a day centre
Ok for a few months it will work out very nice
but sooner or later she’ll end up in some corner
All by her self
But now we have social services on our backs put her here or put there
It’s now got to the point they seem to be mentally threatening us to put her somewhere or they will take her away from us we take care of her needs 24/7
Do we have any rights regarding our daughters welfare
Do we have rights to tell social services we no longer want them !
Thank you bev & conner

Social services make me sick sometimes and i truly do not understand why they feel they should force centres or units on parents if thats not what they want.
What is social services input at the moment?
Are they providing any help of any kind?

Hi I just wanted to say that i believe its totally up to you how you wish your daughters future to be mapped out i don't have personal experience but i can say that my nan for the last 50 yrs has taken care of my uncle totally on her own without any help from social services, they have no input into his daily care at all, he does go to a daycare center every day which he enjoys and he has respite 1 week every 7-10 wks. Don't let social services push you into anything you don't want to do she's your daughter and you know whats best for her. Best of luck, Marie

my friends son is 19 and goes to local college for living skills 3 days a week since he left f/e. because they couldnt find a full time course he is getting something like £30 a day for the other 2 days to pay for him to do whatever he chooses. this is alongside the direct payments his mum gets for his p/a. if a day centre isnt suitable for your daughter then they need to find somewhere that is. at the end of the day the only ppl who can choose where your daughter goes is you, unless they can show neglect (and that would be strange concidering they didnt find it for 19 yrs). social services dont have the money to put anybody into care if there is a parent that will look after them for the carers allowance. does your daughter have a named social worker who is supposed to be working with you to find her somewhere to go to? did she have a connexions worker as i think they are supposed to work with children till they reach 21 but i do know some schools/fe's are having to let them go.
i was told when matt was 16 he was funded to go to college till he was 19 then he gets an adult education grant (not sure if that right name) which would fund education until he was 24 unless he went residential and that would cut to 21.
corinne

Sorry to hear you are having so much grief please check out this website as you need to apply for Lasting Power of Attorney and just to let you know there are two types one Financial and one for Health and Well being decisions.
http://www.guardianship.gov.uk/

This site explains it all some people appoint a Solicitor to do it but you can do it yourself. I hope this helps, shame you were not informed of this prior to your young person reaching 18 GOOD LUCK