Hello all,
feel free to direct me to the correct place if I'm posting in the wrong spot...
I'll try and make this as short a story as possible but its hard to make it really small.
Ever since she was born, My daughter has been extremely advanced. Walking at nine months, for instance, and our GP assures me that she is in fact very smart and ahead of other Children her age developmentally (she referred to my daughter as 'a 3-year-old stuck in the body of an 18-month-old).

Now, as happy as I am to have a very intelligent, inquisitive, independent and gorgeous little girl, there is a downside to the good side.
Nobody I know can believe how stubborn, wilful, ignorant (of discipline/instruction), rambunctious and just generally mischievous my daughter can be.
She is 17 months old and, while she can do things like use a fork and dress herself, she can also throw a mighty big tantrum (usually over nothing) and gets very, very irate if not allowed to have her own way.

She is ALWAYS running, climbing, jumping, fidgeting (with things she shouldn't be!), harrassing our cats... my best friend has a son who is 8 weeks older and he has barely begun walking - he'll sit quietly in a corner playing with his toys, whereas my daughter can never, ever have eyes taken off her for a minute for fear of her getting into something.

Nobody else understands that this is just the way she has always been, it's not because I'm feeding her sugar or artificial colourings, she is just a quirky, mischievous little thing always looking for the next exciting activity to come her way (and yes, she does flit from activity to activity faster than I can pick my nose).
To me, she's a perfectly normal toddler - this is how she has been since the day she was born, and since she's my first and only, I only know what I'm used to, and this is it.
To me (and I know this sounds awful) every other baby her age is 'slow' and I worry that there must be something wrong with them because they just sit there staring at nothing, whereas my daughter is never short of energy.

Today, I had an appointment with the midwife at my local hospital for antenatal clinic as im expecting again and while we were going through paperwork and discussing everything,My daughter was being her usual loud, into-everything self. The midwife asked me if I'd fed her anything unusual today, and my response was, 'No, just Weet-bix.

This behaviour is totally normal for her, she's like this all the time.'
The midwife looked at me, looked at my daughter (who at that moment was climbing a chair to turn the taps on so she could wash her hands) and frankly informed me, 'She's ADD then, obviously.'

Well, I don't know. How early is too early to diagnose ADD? What is ADD/ADHD?
What are some experiences from other mums out there - do you have noisy, easily-bored Children that are totally normal or is any kid who doesn't sit quietly and eat their dinner a case for medication? Should I take her to our GP to talk about having her tested? What are the tests?

I just have a lot of questions and no answers. I don't know how this would affect us if the midwife is right. I'm not sure what to do or what to think, or how to feel.
Any advice would be very, very welcome. Thanks in advance, ladies.

Hi and welcome to the forum!

I wouldn't worry too much about your daughters behaviour unless its causing you or her problems! my daughter who is 7 is exactly the same, always has been. She was a live wire from the word go and even now still thinks life is a performance, she has a song for every hour of the day!

If you do begin to have concerns such as when she starts school or nursery then I would speak to your GP. I didn't realise how different and quiet other children could be until having my sons. Her tantrums are probably just bad because mentally she's ahead but physically she needs to catch up a little! and in anycase, the midwife really shouldn't of said that to you, she is in no position to diagnose such a thing!

Lucy xx

i wondered if your daughters behaviour is a problem to you or do you see it as just the way she is. children that are forward usually dont like rules as they are way too smart - lol. my friends daughter was around the same age as your daughter and she was really forward but mischevious with it too. she could just be ready for something extra such as playgroup where she can run all this extra energy off. my children often need a walk even after school, if the weather isnt bad we all go for a walk round our local woods down to the lake and park. its safe for our children to walk without worrying about traffic and dangers and they seem to power walk round to the park and i think oh my god they had all this energy at a time where i would be putting them to bed.

if you can manage it try a playgroup for a few days a week.

FORMERLY BECKY28 (CANT FIND MY LOG IN DETAILS)

To me she has naught moments but hat child at this age does not?
my mum said i was the same.
Also play group does seem a good idea might try one and at least it will allow me to see how she interacts.

Some good advice thanks

interaction will be good it will tell you more, come back and tell us what happened after. you dont have to go everyday, once a week is fine and if you find you like it and your little one likes it try twice a week.