i have been having a lot of trouble this year with my sons behavior in school, he has been doing a lot of self stimulation only at school, he goes to rest-bite once a month for 1 or 2 days and there has been nothing there. the school got a new principle and i was told that when she decides she doesn't like you then that's it your in for it. i had been called to the school numerous times and got the call early morning and had to go right away, after 2 or 3 times hey decided to get a special social worker who deals with concerns and issues relating to sexual issues and children after a time she decided it was just normal what he was doing and dismissed the cased. after a few months the school started calling me up again and finally he 3rd time i rang my social worker to go to 3 weeks before summer hols, it was said he was going over and beyond normal behavior and it needed to be looked into by way of a physical medical on my son and behavior specialists and i was fuming they tried to say he spoke about a particular member of family which was quite distressing for all involved it put real strain and stress on the family unit as we are quite close. i took him to local doc and he said it was all nonsense as my son is always there for diff problems and after 2 weeks i rang social worker and she said she had rang the police, and the gateway team again but every1 said there is absolutely no need to worry and that everything is fine now. now, we as a family are dreading this year's term wondering whats infront of us and feel really annoyed at the stress and strain of this as it could have severely broken a family unit and then my son would have had no-one. now, we dont know wether to let it go or try and take further action?

I would make an information request from each agency involved in this matter to make sure you dont stir-up a hornet's nest, then review what is there and make a decision about further action.
Try and be patient while the information is compiled.... it must be horrible knowing what sort of things may have been said about your family but they can only go by what is recorded.

Good Practice dictates; the Social worker should have informed you she was notifying the police and notified you of the out come the strategy meeting that would have been held.

You have a right to see what information CS hold in your childs file and you can request to see it.

If you are concerned about the school I would be getting your local Parent Partnership involved, Children with disabilities / issues are singled out enough without School adding to the problems

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Thank you a lot for your reply's, it has been very difficult and with having two girls as well i was really concerned about this being brought to an even more further serious matter along with worse accusations.
I was told by some1 in our downs syndrome group that the new principle can take a dislike to people straight away, don't get me wrong i definitely chose the school for my son he has come on leaps and bounds and loves school and would live there and in many other aspects has excelled himself much more than we believed he could it is a wonderful school but hearing that about the principle really got us worried and the person was so sure of what they were saying as they have previous worked together.
it has been very distressing as my sons behavior can be erratic at the best of times and very trying but even his restbite have not noticed anything on toward and when he first started going there i made them fully aware of what to look for as he had been doing things at home before but the school was notified also. The school kept saying they would keep me informed every day in his dairy but never was anything said until i recieved the call to go up and it always had to be there and then and was always quite a lot to take in then. i do feel the school could have handled and done things differently which may have eased the stress and worry. they also said he had been quite violent at times but there was never no proof of this as in accident or inncident reports. it has really upset every1 involved especially the person in question which i knew right away just would never be possible but now that person no longer wishes to be on their own with my son and it is a really pitty and shame as he is the best and my son is his world, as are the 2 girls but as my son was the first born and then his dissabilities on top he has really touched the whole family and always brings every1 back together but this time may not be able to. we just dont know wether to leave and let be or to push our point further.
his social worker is constantly being chnged and we nerver hear from them unless we ring with something and just feel that after this especially we feel we should be in constant contact so we are just unsure wether if we mention it further if that would bring more attention for all the wrong reasons???
thanks for all your comments xxx

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(This post was last modified: 07-24-2010 06:58 PM by tracey26.)