hello i have a lil boy who is 5 and has complex learning needs. at the moment at school they have to make sure my son has had a wee so what they do is flush the chain first and then get him to have a wee. because my son will sit on the toilet but he might not have a wee this is for his saftey because we dont want him going back to him holding his wee in all day and no showing signs of pain or discomfort so they do this to make sure he has a wee throught out the day. i have bein told that he needs more help then others and this would be classed as personal care as its to help him not end up having a medical problem.

i am puzzled here, what are they doing that constitutes personal care? surely at that age they have other Children they need to help with toileting its not a disabled issue if Children arent fully toilet trained at five is it? why do they flush before he uses it? i would hope they had flushed after last child had used it anyway. and u can hear when someone is tinkling thats why they call it tinkling hehe
are they trying to get you to come in and take him to the toilet or are they pushing for more funding? i have a friend who's son isnt special needs (there is some probs but docs say its the mum) but he is still in nappies when he was 5 and the school had no problems with changing him they even have a bathroom next to heads office and she cleans them up and has spare clothes if needed.

hello corrine no they aint asking me to go in. with my son he can sit on the toilet for 2seconds and say he has had a wee but we know when he hasnt had a wee wen he comes home and is on the toilet for a long time because he usually only stays on for 2secs. i kno u would beable to hear but because we have had in the past that he has held his wee in for ages we dont want him going back to that stage. we have had the dla on the phone to us asking what help he needs in school and i kno my son has extra help in school but i know children who will go on the toilet and no problem. up in salford a child gose in school when they are 3 but they like them to be out of nappys by then or atleast before they go in reception or you are called in unless u have a statement in place.

matt never had probs with weeing but we did have serious probs with pooing as he was about 12 yrs old before he would go anywhere except at home and that was after we spent nearly 2 yrs to get him to go there. is there anyway to make it fun like putting a ping pong ball in and get him to wee standing up and aiming at it? has he had tests to make sure there isnt a medical reason for him not going as when my kidneys are playing up i cant go but usually shows up in swollen legs and i find tea makes me go double lol,
it used to be here that if they were in nappies they didnt change them at nursery which is one of reasons i put matt in special school as he had been in college nursery full time for a year so i felt it was a step backward to only have him there for 2 hours a day as he had been very clingy and i couldnt even go loo without him screaming. but do know that nowadays they have to accept them even in nappies as they are entitled to free nursery from 3 and there will always be some Children that dont take to toilet training before that otherwise pampers and the like wouldnt be making nappies for older Children

hey myy son wont stand up cause he has developmental coordantion disorder so he looses his balance if he stands up and we have tryed standing him at ome and he would rather sit down. yea they take children in nappys as my other son is in nappys and he has got lactose intolarance so its gettin better but he wants big boy undies. but they have to make sure he has had a wee and not hold it in. we have had him seen by my daughters urologist but he just keepin eye on him but there was one nite he came home didnt have a drink because he fell sleep early and when we put him in bed he came out 10mins later and his nappy was hanging off him and now they have to keep a close eye on him as he has held it in and they got worried but he had bein drinking through the day. but he dosent have a poo in school its when he gets home so they dont see that side of him struggling to clean himself so i have to help him alot. school was worried at one point about his weein stage and they said it could cause medical problems so i do leave school anxious that he isant going to have wee. but he can lye say hes had a wee and when they check he hasnt so they have to encourage him as they kno how much he has to drink.