(08-22-2010 04:40 PM)osullivan1986 Wrote:  

(08-22-2010 02:43 PM)Daniel Wrote:  

(08-22-2010 02:33 PM)osullivan1986 Wrote:  2 weeks till my next skydive wahooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

hey guys i really dnt know who to talk to but im having doubts that i dnt want to be with my partner ne more cant stop thinking about it

Come on then talk to your Uncle Jezza
Whats making you feel like this?

ive been feeling like this for quite a while now.dnt get me wrong i love him but im not as in love with him as i was before.we have been 2geva for nearly 7yrs.there is no connection between us ne more.

I think its a stage many relationships go through as you both grow older and grow up together,some people grow apart some grow together,but i believe you dont cant just plod along as it will grow apart.
Relationships are a two way thing and there is no doubt things you dont like about him and vice versa and i dont believe its too late for people to tune into each others life again.
I know its hard when you have a child with special needs to find that time to get alone or share intrests and that places further strain on a relationship.
Your at that stage in your relationship now where your wondering whats next and is this the way it is?
But you both need time to reconnect and share time with each other and both of you need to make the effort.
What do you both do together now if anything?
For example me and Lucy now make time for each other once a month to get out and do something together.
Yesterday i even bought a suit so we can go to a nice restraunt in 2 weeks time
But i know when i tried it on i felt 10 foot high as i didnt feel like dowdy dad if that makes sense
Making that little effort can sometimes make a big diffrence.
Even if its a meal out both you could make the effort.
You could put some slap on and dress up and he could get his best shoes on and nice outfit and remind each other what you see in each other.
If i could suggest a really good night out thats actually a good cheap night out and thats a comedy club followed by a meal if you can handle comedy.
Believe me you will both come home so relaxed and chilled out.

Ask yourself whats not working and why?
Ask yourself why you both fell for each other in the first place?

And then ask even if you were with another person and once that honeymoon period had worn off where would you be and what would be much diffrent.

I suppose to a degree we all grow old and life isnt an all night party and i think when we have a child with additional needs we realise that quicker than most but its not too late for both of you and you shouldnt walk away from something thats given you much happiness and your family

And in this one i wont be suggesting treats

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