my weigh in is tomorrow but i have put on weight 2lbs thats coz i had a bit of a tummy bug and i ate the wrong things. im back on track now. yes we are going walking in the cold good for your lungs.

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good on you!!!

(01-03-2010 11:43 AM)Daniel Wrote:  An intresting discussion to be had here i think and hopefully open up some good debate and give us some good view points.
Since your childs diagnosis how has it affected your life?
Some ideas possibly include:

• Has your relationship suffered or are you and your partner no longer together because of the diagnosis?
• Has your relationship improved since the diagnosis and has it made you stronger?
• Has it affected your previous freindships with freinds?
• Has it affected your social life?
• Are you a stronger or weaker person now?
• Has it changed your personality?
• How has the diagnosis changed your life path?
  

The above are just some possible ideas on how things maybe now.
What would you say has been affected?
Look forward to your thoughts and views....

yes it has affected our relationship,yes it has affected our family relationships,social life,personalitys,everything.i think i am more tolerant but it has also opened my eyes to the way the world sees people with special needs-not always a good thing.unfortunately i am realistic and sometimes wish i could bury my head in the sand!i think the little things in life should be cherished and having a "different" child certainly makes you do that!

(01-03-2010 11:43 AM)Daniel Wrote:  An intresting discussion to be had here i think and hopefully open up some good debate and give us some good view points.
Since your childs diagnosis how has it affected your life?
Some ideas possibly include:

• Has your relationship suffered or are you and your partner no longer together because of the diagnosis?
• Has your relationship improved since the diagnosis and has it made you stronger?
• Has it affected your previous freindships with freinds?
• Has it affected your social life?
• Are you a stronger or weaker person now?
• Has it changed your personality?
• How has the diagnosis changed your life path?
  

The above are just some possible ideas on how things maybe now.
What would you say has been affected?
Look forward to your thoughts and views....

To be honest, my son having Aspergers hasn't affected my relationship with his dad or anyone else really. He is our first and only child so it's all we know. At first when I told my mum about him, when I first when to see the health visitor, she was like "it's just a phase..." but she soon realised it wasn't. I've never had a huuuuge group of friends, but the one's I do have, don't treat us any different and I still have them there, I never doubted they wouldn't be there. I don't think his diagnosis has changed my personality, but it's definitely affected me, sometime's when he's having a huge meltdown in public over a disney store carrier bag (!!) I just think how much I wish he was "normal" and wonder "why?". I'm also not sure if I would have any more children because my son needs so much and at the moment I know he get's all my attention, no doubt about it, but with another child I'd be questioning is he missing out?

we are similar to you koobcam in that as matt is out only child and we had him just over a year after we were married we didnt know any difference, still went through the panic over colic and sitting on him when he was a few months old lol (hubby put him on the bed behind me and i sat down to put socks on), like any other parent, was only when his speech went and his behaviour got worse that we realised there was something different. i have always been a bit shy so have a few friends and i still have them, i have changed in the fact that i wont let myself be walked over (when in relation to matt or hubby still allow it for myself lol)
We have v. different interests, i enjoy going to local nightclub (for oldies) every couple of weeks with friend who's son is autistic too as it was always out night to be corinne and L while hubby prefers a diesel train day and no way will i join him (neither will matt anymore hehe) but as mark works half days twice a week we make an effort to do something together on at least one of them either go pizza hut once a month or if marks choosing we go to bed early but we have been together 20 years and matt will be 17 this year so must work somehow, only thing i would change is get mark to argue back
i dont wonder very often what matt would be like if he wasnt autistic because he wouldnt be him, how many 16 yr olds still like to have hugs and kisses of their mum? he is a wind up merchant as well and makes us laugh when he loudly sings humpty dumpty in our face with a big grin on his face.
corinne