I have had such a terrible day, emily only came back from holiday yesterday (shes been away with nan for the week) and its been like a total war zone since!! every opportunity she has started an arguement with either me, dan, euan whoever. its unbearable to the point where i resent her being there!! i feel so guilty for actually feeling like that, i mean shes my daughter but im at a total loss as to what to do! she causes huge rows and was shouting at dan yesterday like i had never heard, was pure anger in her face screwed up. she tries to get us into trouble as parents going to my mom and saying 'dad said this' or 'mom said that' whereas in reality we might of only agreed to something she said, or not answered or whatever, its totally one sided and i feel like im justifying everything to everyone because otherwise they'll think bad of me

the worst bit is she KNOWS shes doing wrong!! but seems the thrive off it. she had me in tears infront of my mom today, as soon as she walked through the door she started and even said, im going to get into trouble later for this....but STILL carried on n im standing there crying because i just dont know what to do

i have a camhs appointment with her on tuesday and they want us to bring all the Children, what a nightmare thats going to be. she windes euan up rotten, its awfull to say he has been pretty pleasent while shes been away, whereas hes been in total meltdown all day today, ive been punched in the face, emilys been bitten n had her hair pulled out, hes pushing alfie over n hitting him which he hasnt done in a while, she just will go and sit next to him with his favourite toy until he starts screaming for it n shes going 'i had it first' i just feel like screaming if i'm honest. why cant she just leave him alone when hes sitting nice

this is so bad, i must sound terrible, im mad at myself really, i dont even know what camhs can do, if shes 'made' like that then surely im stuck with it?! pffftt i just feel so fed up right now

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My son is 6, and he's at his dad's for the week. I know exactly what he'll be like when he comes back home, a nightmare and it'll get to the point where I wish I could send him back to his dad's, this happens every time he's been away from me/Maddie, just for the one day and things calm down and get back to normal after that. My son doesn't have any disabilities or anything, I think it's just the change of scenery/happy to be home, not sleeping as much at his dad's as he does here, etc that makes him hard work when he gets home. As I said tho, thankfully it just lasts the one day and then we get back to normal but it's hard going and it's not nice to wish he maybe still away when he's behaving like that but I think it's natural. They know how to push our buttons!

mmm got to say that matt used to be the same when he came home from respite i would spend the night in my room to avoid his non stop attacks yet he liked his respite, but got to the stage where we wondered if it was even worth fighting for the respite if this is what we had when he came home again and it would last for a few days until he settled back into his routine, its like he was testing us to see how far he could push as in respite he was treated like a child and had his food cut up for him and really babied whereas we refused to and always treated him the age he was/is. could be that like most grandparents she was babied a bit and had her own way all the time now she is back at home she has to share attention and the best way to get it in her mind is to misbehave even if it upsets you, i dont think at that age they understand fully how much pain it causes parents to make us cry where Children will cry at drop of hat so they think thats why we crying when it actually means we are so hurt and in pain we cant cope and have to cry

Hun I know just where your coming from.
My dd, Katie 10, (11 in September) is the same every sunday when she comes home from seeing her dad. Last week she did the unthinkable after been told off and sent to her room she rung her dad telling him that she hated living here, was scared of myself and my partner Simon.
After numerous phone calls from her dad he ended up on the door stp demanding to see Katie. Well since the day he left( day he hit me) he has never been allow back in my house. So because I wouldnt let him in he phoned the police telling them I was refusing to let him see his daughter and that she was in danger.
After a long wait police arrived, during which Katie and him were constantly screaming through windows at each other.

Of course police had to do their jobs but could see she was in no danger, dad had completely overreacted and was told to leave. Katie still screaming and shout for him not to leave her here and to take her with him.

By now I had completely lost it crying. Katie has this man on a pedistool so high its unbelievable. He is the worse dad ever, never takes her anywhere, never buys her anything but she never sees any wrong in him.

Following day she got up and acted as if nothing at all happened. I really have got to the point with her that I dont know what to do.

Anyway sorry for the long post just wanted you to know your not alone.
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(07-31-2010 09:29 PM)Sara Sophie's Mummy Wrote:  Hun I know just where your coming from.
My dd, Katie 10, (11 in September) is the same every sunday when she comes home from seeing her dad. Last week she did the unthinkable after been told off and sent to her room she rung her dad telling him that she hated living here, was scared of myself and my partner Simon.
After numerous phone calls from her dad he ended up on the door stp demanding to see Katie. Well since the day he left( day he hit me) he has never been allow back in my house. So because I wouldnt let him in he phoned the police telling them I was refusing to let him see his daughter and that she was in danger.
After a long wait police arrived, during which Katie and him were constantly screaming through windows at each other.

Of course police had to do their jobs but could see she was in no danger, dad had completely overreacted and was told to leave. Katie still screaming and shout for him not to leave her here and to take her with him.

By now I had completely lost it crying. Katie has this man on a pedistool so high its unbelievable. He is the worse dad ever, never takes her anywhere, never buys her anything but she never sees any wrong in him.

Following day she got up and acted as if nothing at all happened. I really have got to the point with her that I dont know what to do.

Anyway sorry for the long post just wanted you to know your not alone.
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Oh my goodness, I hope you're ok, what a terrible ordeal.